Adam Alley's recollections
Contributor: DdraigGoch Created: 2 years ago Updated: 2 years ago
Richard married my mother (Cheryl) when I was really young. In fact, he would watch us (my brother Rusty and I) while she went out on dates with other guys. See, he was smart because he knew the best way to win my mom's heart was through my brother and I. His plan succeeded and Richard became whom I called and considered my Dad. My earliest recollections are from when he would walk me to and from kindergarten.
I will always remember him listening to baseball games on the radio and playing some baseball stats game. He was amazing with baseball facts and trivia. No matter how well his Dodgers did he was their biggest fan (atleast in my opinion). His love of the game carried into our personal lives as he was always willing to help keep the books (record keeper) as he was a natural at it. Every game, every year, he was there to watch us and cheer us on. He made me want to always try my best because of how proud he was no matter how I did.
I will also always remember going with him into mom's school for Halloween where he would dress as the Grim Reaper to give the kids a good scare. He loved holidays and always allowed my mom to go full out in decorating. For Halloween we'd decorate the garage to be a haunted maze and he'd sit pretending to be just a fake decor when all of a sudden he'd reach out and scary who ever was closest to him. For Christmas he'd allow mom to bring out her Nativity collection which was strung all throughout the house in every room. One of my favorite things was sitting in the living room late in the evening listening to Christmas music and staring at the Christmas lights with him.
His love of our Savior, Jesus Christ was certain. He lived a very meek and humble life filled with service, especially in the Jordan River Temple. I admire him for always keeping his focus on making sure he attended as often as opportunity permitted. When ever times got rough he would suggest going to the Temple and everything always turned out alright! He was instrumental in my gaining my personal testimony as he provided such an amazing example and encouragement. He was supportive in everything I ever did including scouts, church activities, and all my sports.
It was my choice all throughout school to go by and use his last name (Wyman) as my own. All my friends ever knew me as was Adam Wyman. In fact, they thought it was the coolest thing ever that I had 5 names "Adam Samuel Henry Alley Wyman". On my high school graduation mug it was a challenge to fit them all on as my name wrapped all the way around the mug. This led to one of my most difficult decisions of my life as I turned my Mission papers in and I was required to use my "Legal" name for passport purposes. Part of me wanted to get Wyman officially added, but I believe the Spirit of Elijah prompted me to start going by my biological name as a way to draw me closer to my birth father. Although, this decision sure confused my friends and coworkers when they received my farewell invitation as they wondered whom this Adam Alley guy was. Likewise, it was a bit challenging for me to get used to being called Elder Alley, as misionaries in the MTC and my first area would address me. I wouldn't respond immediately, thinking they were speaking to someone else.
His battle with his disability of Muscular Distrophy was another life defining parts of my life. I grew up understanding how important it is to honor and respect others no matter their limitations. I learned early on how judgemental and ignorant people could be. His impact in my life played a major role in my involvement in working with people who have special needs.
I love the caption on his headstone, "A Pure Man". He was a gentle giant whom I grew to love and respect. I will always cherish him as my Father and will always be grateful for raising me righteously! I love you dad!
Adam Samuel Henry Alley (Wyman)