Mom's Life Graveside Services June 3, 2000 By Sylvia Hazel
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Good Afternoon, thank you for being here today to remember my mother Lorraine Ruth Halladay Bargar. I am her daughter Sylvia Hazel and I would like to share some things about Mom's life with you today.
Mom came into this world on August 7th 1924 in Provo, Utah. She was the daughter of Minnie Ruth Nielsen Halladay, a housewife, and George A. Halladay, a coke oven man as described on her birth certificate.. She passed away on May 25, 2000 at 9:45 a.m. in Bakersfield, California. Mom was the oldest girl of seven children. She had four brothers Cecil, Floyd, Lloyd and Harold Halladay and two sisters Zella Lewis and Raeola Hudson. Raeola is her only surviving sister. She also has one surviving cousin Viola Bane.
Mom grew up in Provo, Utah. She attended Franklin Elementary School, Dixon Junior High School and Provo High. Mom was a member of the Utah State Pupils Reading Circle in 1936-37 and again in 1937-1938. Mom was baptized and confirmed a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints on December 11, 1932. She graduated from the Church of Jesus of Latter Day Saints Primary on September 4, 1936. Mom's mother Minnie Halladay, at the young age of 40 passed away on August 31, 1941. Since mom was the oldest girl she took on many of the jobs her mother had done including cooking meals and caring for her younger sisters while she was still attending Provo High School. Mom graduated from Provo High School on May 29, 1942.
After graduating from High School, Mom went to work at Hill Air Force Base in Ogden, Utah as a secretary and met her husband to be Roger Elias Bargar. The story of their courtship as I remember it goes something like this: Daddy asked her out,they went on a date, the next night he asked her to marry him and the next night she accepted his proposal. They were married in Ogden, Utah within seven days of their first date on July 8, 1943. That was quite a whirlwind romance. They remained married until his death on January 11, 1965. He died as a result of a Geneva Steel accident. Mom never dated or remarried. She wore her wedding ring the remainder of her life. Roger was her one true love.
Mom has five children all still surviving: Roger Bargar Junior, Evanston, Wyoming, Anne Standifird, St. George, Utah, Sharon McCanlies, Corpus Christi, Texas, Darlene Bargar, Bakersfield, California and myself Sylvia Hazel, Bakersfield, California. She had 12 grandchildren and five great grandchildren. We all loved mom very much and she loved us too.
Mom spent most of her life in Utah. She worked at a variety of jobs such as Secretary at Hill Air Force Base, an Office Manager of Barelco, Snack Bar Manager at Art City Lanes, and a Presser at Bayly Manufacturing. She earned a certificate of merit from Bayly Manufacturing for having the highest departmental percent gain of operation under 100%.
Mom was an avid bowler, bowled on many teams and served as secretary of the Art City Bowling Association. She also bowled on the Springville Travel League. She won many bowling trophies and truly enjoyed the friends she met bowling. She often talked about Laurel Lowe, Betty Gonzales, and Dot Perrero who were on her Thursday morning bowling team. When she visited Utah she looked forward to visiting her bowling friends.
Mom moved to Bakersfield in the 1980's and worked as a clerk for Seven Eleven for several years until she retired.
The last couple of years mom spent her time traveling to visit each of her children. Mom loved her trip to New Orleans that she took with Sharon. However, she mentioned that there were lots of strange looking people on the streets. She visited Anne and they went to Mesquite, Nevada on a regular basis to play BINGO. She loved playing BINGO. Mom had a great time visiting Anne's children Gary, Angie, and Wendy. They all made it a point to visit Mom when she was staying at Anne's house. The last visit Mom had with Roger he took her to visit his son Erich at veterinary college in Colorado.She was very proud of Erich and was very impressed to see the Budweiser Clydesdale horses that were at the Veterinary Clinic where Erich was receiving his training. Tieg another one of Roger's sons just returned from a mission in Mexico and Mom thought he did a wonderful job speaking at his Welcome Home. She always shared Tieg's letters with me and would read them over and over again. Mom had a great time at Mindy's wedding and kept a large picture of Mindy, Mark and herself at the wedding on her bedroom dresser. When Mom was in Bakersfield she loved going to hear her granddaughter Shara sing with the Bakersfield College Choir. Mom was proud that Darlene was in charge of her own stand at Bakersfield Centennial Gardens. Her grandson Shayne who lives in Texas visited her on one of his trips to Bakersfield and mom was so happy to see him. Hillary another granddaughter visited Mom last year on Mom's birthday in Bakersfield. She enjoyed visiting with Hillary and her husband John and baby Cambria. It made her last birthday a wonderful day. Mom was so happy to hear that her grandson Travis was doing well. She would do anything for him. Mom was an avid Court TV fan and so excited to watch another granddaughter, my daughter Kimberly doing her job in court as a Deputy District Attorney. Mom was very proud of all her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren and supported us in any endeavor we decided to undertake.
As Abraham Lincoln said "All that I am or hope to be, I owe to my Angel mother." I would like to end with a poem entitled:
By Margaret Widdemer.
She always leaned to watch for us,
Anxious if we were late,
In the winter by a window,
In the summer by the gate:
And though we mocked
Who had such foolish care,
The long way home would
Seem more safe
Because she waited there.
Her thoughts were all so full of us,
She never could forget!
And so I think that where she is
She must be watching yet,
Waiting till we come home to her,
Anxious if we are late---
Watching from Heaven's window,
Leaning from Heaven's gate.